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We can all have moments in and out of work when we may feel we are being dealt an unfair hand or we just don’t feel good about something. When you don’t feel great, there is something going on inside you and it is important to take the time to think about it.

I trained in NLP – Neuro Linguistic programming. NLP explores the relationships between what goes on in our brain, the emotions we feel and the behaviour we produce. If we learn more, we can create our own behavioural excellence.
When you change the way you think, you can change the way you feel. When you change the way you feel, you change the way you behave!
Sometimes, with dramatic events, we may consider the way we feel is entirely valid. However, with a work or personal focus we have to ask ourselves ‘is that the way I want to feel?’

So, what can we do to make these changes?
The 3 C’s is what I have used personally and with others I have helped along the way in workshops and coaching. It is a simple tool to help you to challenge and change negative internal dialogue.
It requires consistency, commitment to yourself and a level of self-awareness. I know from personal experience that when you commit to and practise this technique, it works!
Catch it – you need to be honest with yourself and be self-aware in order to catch that self-talk.
For example “I wasn’t asked to contribute to the team discussion earlier. I don’t think what I have to say is important anyway”
Check it – ask yourself, is it kind, true and positive?
For example “What is the evidence for this thought? What might an alternative explanation be?”
Change it – use positive language to put you in a better state and in turn you will feel better.
For example “It was a packed agenda and it might have been difficult to hear from everyone” “I do have first hand experience of the issues so perhaps I could make some suggestions for changing the meeting format so everyone is heard”

It can be helpful to write brief reflections or re-word if you have a negative phrase thought /you want to change.
I personally use it to support achieving my work and life goals and to help me feel at my best – which is when I support my clients and participants the best.

Why not give it a go? It can help us all make big differences for ourselves and others around us.

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